How to Choose the Best Cruise Ship for Your Family
When families start looking for a cruise, it's natural to focus on the destination.
Bahamas? Caribbean? Mexico?
But one of the biggest lessons I've learned from planning and taking cruises with my own family is that where you're going is only part of the decision.
The ship matters—a lot.
Your family may spend several full days onboard, and two ships sailing similar itineraries can provide completely different vacation experiences.
So instead of asking, "What's the best cruise ship?" I think there's a better question:
"What's the best cruise ship for our family?"
Here's what I'd consider before choosing.
1. Start With Your Kids' Ages
A ship that looks incredible to a family traveling with teenagers may not be the best fit for parents traveling with preschoolers.
Start by looking at the ages of everyone traveling.
For younger children, you might prioritize things like:
Age-appropriate kids' clubs
Splash areas
Pools designed for families
Character experiences or family entertainment
Convenient dining
Earlier entertainment options
Families with older children and teenagers may care more about:
Waterslides
Sports
Arcades
Teen clubs
Thrill attractions
Late-night activities
More independence onboard
Don't just ask whether a ship has "activities for kids."
Find out whether it has activities your kids will actually want to do.
2. Look Beyond the Cruise Line and Compare the Actual Ship
This is a big one for first-time cruisers.
Choosing a cruise line doesn't finish the decision.
Cruise lines can operate many different ships, and there can be significant differences between an older, smaller ship and one of the line's newest ships.
They may have different restaurants, entertainment, pools, attractions, cabin categories and layouts.
Even ships operated by the same cruise line can deliver noticeably different experiences.
That's why I like comparing the specific ship, not just the logo on the side of it.
3. Decide Whether Your Family Wants a Big Ship or Something Simpler
Today's largest cruise ships can feel like floating resorts.
Depending on the ship, you might find waterslides, theaters, multiple pools, sports areas, specialty restaurants and attractions you wouldn't expect to find at sea.
For families who love having something to do constantly, that can be fantastic.
But bigger isn't automatically better.
Large ships can mean more walking, more passengers and more choices to navigate.
A smaller ship may be easier to learn and can provide a more relaxed experience.
Think about your family's vacation style.
Do you want maximum activities, or would your family rather have something a little easier to navigate?
4. Pay Attention to Sea Days
Sea days are days when the ship doesn't visit a port.
And they're one reason choosing the right ship matters so much.
If your itinerary has several sea days, you're going to spend a significant amount of vacation time using the ship itself.
That's when pools, entertainment, kids' clubs, activities and dining options become especially important.
A ship with fewer attractions might be perfectly fine for a port-intensive itinerary.
Put that same family on a cruise with several sea days, and the experience could be very different.
When comparing cruises, I look at the ship and itinerary together.
5. Look at the Pools and Water Attractions
For many families, this is near the top of the list.
But don't stop after seeing a picture of a giant waterslide.
Look at what is actually available for the ages of your children.
Some attractions have height, age or other participation requirements.
Also look at how many pools there are, whether there are splash areas and whether certain areas are restricted to adults.
A ship may advertise an impressive water attraction that your youngest child isn't able to use.
That's the kind of thing I'd rather know before booking.
6. Compare the Kids' and Teen Programs
Kids' clubs can be a major part of a family cruise.
They can give children opportunities to meet other kids and participate in age-specific activities while parents get some time to themselves.
But programs differ among cruise lines and ships.
Look at:
Age groups
Hours
Activities
Registration requirements
Teen spaces
Whether certain childcare services cost extra
If your children are likely to use the clubs frequently, this deserves more attention than simply confirming that a kids' club exists.
7. Think About What Your Family Will Eat
Food matters on vacation—especially when you're traveling with kids.
Cruise ships can have very different dining setups.
Some offer a relatively straightforward combination of a main dining room, buffet and a few casual choices.
Others have a huge selection of restaurants.
More choices can be great, but find out which restaurants are included in your fare and which cost extra.
If someone in the family is a picky eater or has dietary considerations, it's worth researching the dining options before choosing the ship.
8. Entertainment Can Make a Big Difference
After dinner, what does your family like to do?
Depending on the ship, entertainment could include:
Stage productions
Live music
Comedy
Game shows
Movies
Family activities
Parties
Special performances
Some families want something happening every night.
Others would rather eat dinner and relax.
Neither approach is wrong.
You're trying to find the ship that fits how your family actually vacations.
9. Don't Ignore Cabin Options
The ship can be amazing, but you still need somewhere comfortable to sleep.
Families should pay particular attention to cabin occupancy and sleeping arrangements.
A room advertised for four people may use combinations of traditional beds, sofa beds, bunks or pull-down beds.
Also consider whether your family would benefit from:
Connecting cabins
A balcony
Additional bathrooms
More storage
A larger family cabin
A suite
Sometimes spending a little more on the right room can make a noticeable difference in the overall vacation.
Other times, the family would rather save money on the cabin and spend it elsewhere.
There's no universal answer.
10. Consider Where the Cabin Is Located
After choosing a cabin category, look at its location.
Think about what's around, above and below it.
You may want convenient access to elevators or certain areas of the ship.
On the other hand, you may prefer a quieter location away from heavily trafficked areas.
If anyone in the family is particularly sensitive to motion, cabin location may deserve additional consideration as well.
Don't choose solely from the cabin photograph.
Look at the deck plan.
11. Newer Doesn't Automatically Mean Better
New ships get a lot of attention, and for good reason.
They may introduce the newest attractions, restaurants, entertainment and technology.
But that doesn't mean an older ship is automatically a poor choice.
Depending on your priorities, an older or smaller ship may offer:
A better itinerary
A more convenient departure port
A lower vacation cost
A simpler onboard experience
Exactly the amenities your family needs
The goal isn't to book the newest ship.
It's to book the ship that gives your family the experience you're looking for.
12. Compare the Total Vacation Cost
This is where comparing cruises can get tricky.
Suppose Cruise A costs less than Cruise B.
Cruise A must be the better deal, right?
Not necessarily.
Consider what your family might add:
Wi-Fi
Beverage packages
Specialty dining
Excursions
Gratuities
Onboard activities
Transportation
Hotel before the cruise
Parking or airfare
The initial cruise fare is important, but I prefer thinking about the total vacation.
Sometimes the sailing that initially looks more expensive can make more sense once you compare what you're actually getting.
13. Think About the Departure Port
This is particularly important for families.
A great ship isn't quite as attractive if getting to it requires expensive airfare, difficult flight schedules and additional hotel nights.
Sometimes being able to drive to a departure port can substantially change the economics and convenience of a cruise.
Other times, flying is absolutely worthwhile to get the ship or itinerary you want.
Just include that part of the trip when comparing your options.
So, Which Cruise Ship Is Best for Families?
There isn't one.
And that's actually a good thing.
Different families want different vacations.
One family might want huge waterslides, nonstop entertainment and as many activities as possible.
Another might care more about relaxing by the pool, visiting interesting ports and eating dinner together every night.
That's why choosing a cruise should start with the people taking the vacation—not a generic list of the "10 Best Cruise Ships."
Start With Your Family, Then Find the Ship
When I plan cruises, I like to work backward.
Instead of starting with a particular ship and trying to make it fit, start with questions like:
Who's traveling?
How old are the kids?
What does everyone enjoy?
Where would you like to go?
How much time do you have?
What's comfortable for the vacation budget?
Once those pieces start coming together, comparing ships becomes much easier.
That's also what I learned while researching trips for my own family. There were details I didn't initially know to look for until I started digging deeper.
Those little discoveries can make a big difference once you're actually on vacation.
Taking Your First Cruise?
If you've never cruised before, I put together a more comprehensive guide covering cabins, itineraries, excursions, dining, cruise extras, embarkation and other things worth knowing before booking.
Read: First-Time Cruise Guide: What Families Should Know Before Booking
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